HOW TO HEAL TRAUMA IN 3 STEPS
Today I have a simple self-healing tool to share with you that can help heal trauma. I have used this process for 100’s of events in my own life and in the lives of others. The process is my version of what some shamanic healing candidates might go through as part of their training.The shaman-in-training had to go into a cave with a bundle of sticks, each stick represented a memory he had to heal. He couldn’t leave the cave until the pile of sticks was gone and all “loaded” memories were healed. Each stick represented a memory that needed healing. The memories were experienced in all their glory with the accompanying emotions and the event was transformed when a stick was thrown in the fire. My process is much less dramatic however feel free to customize to your liking.
It is important to note that there are different types of trauma. Some people use terms such as Big T and Little t or Macro and Micro trauma. I would break trauma into 2 general groups.
1) Major traumatic events - death of a loved one, physical/sexual abuse, divorce, disease/illness, etc.
2) Developmental trauma - little things that happened to us during our life which shape how we view the world, how we view ourselves and how we function as humans in this reality.
Developmental trauma is what we are after here. This can be as simple as something mean someone said to you at school or the way you were spoken to as a child or the words that were spoken around you. I think this is an often overlooked area for those on the healing path because 1) many of these events are forgotten and 2) people don’t think that something so simple can impact them so deeply. While I have used this process with Major trauma, there can be more layers involved and it is often best to work with a practitioner. To be honest, I would probably recommend unwinding the smaller events before digging into the big things.
So here it is:
ORGANIZE - Here we are organizing our thoughts about the event. Write down an event from your life, most likely childhood. It can be as simple as “Johnny made fun me at the playground when I was in second grade” or “Aunt Sally told me she thought my dress looked funny at my 8th birthday party” or “My mom was late picking me up from school one day” or My dad didn’t come to my dance recital” or “The first day of kindergarten when my mom dropped me off and I was crying”. Start with any memory. If you don’t have any memories, refer to this article and start making a list of all memories from your life. Upon identifying this event, It is very common for some emotions to present themselves, but very often these are surface emotions and we need to go deeper and get more specific with the emotional story.
UNDERSTAND - Here we are selecting the exact emotions linked to the event and understanding how the emotions shape the story. For this step you will need to refer to the list of 50 Emotions below and you will need to learn how to use a pendulum, muscle testing or have a strong intuitive sense that can help you select the emotions. It is very important that we select the exact emotions tied to the event that we wrote down. The emotional energy spectrum is my version of all possible emotions that can be experienced as a human. You will see that there are 25 pairs and there is a negative / positive polarity. Our minds turn these into negative and positive however there really should be no polarity assigned to them. But you get the point. Go through each emotion in the list and ask your pendulum (or other technique) to confirm if the emotion was activated in the event that you wrote down (it will likely give you a yes or no). This will take some time at first, but eventually you will be able to go through the entire list in a less than a minute. Generally you will find that there were a number of emotions activated. Write the emotions down in a list.
TRANSFORM - Here you look at event that you wrote down, and then you look at the list of emotions from step 2 and you close your eyes. You often see how this event really impacted you - where there was anger, there is now grief, where there was shock, there is now fear, where there was apathy there is now shame, etc. The story will often be rewritten and experienced. Take it a step further and ask your guides, angels and other compassionate beings that are helping you to transmute these emotions.. This can all be done in your head. At this point a transformation usually occurs and the event will be healed. Every event is different and will be processed differently. You might cry or you might not. You might feel anxious for a period of time as the emotions are moving through your system, you may feel really tired, you may feel really energized, you may have vivid dreams and you may even start remembering new events which need healing. YOU WILL NEED TO REPEAT THIS PROCESS MANY TIMES!
P.S. If you didn't figure it out already, this is the genesis of HEAL WITH OUT, although the process has grown to include many more areas which I intend to share in the future.
Well, I hope that was helpful. If you need any help, let me know. The list of emotions is below and also on my website HERE.
Additionally, I will now be posting some Qigong and other related videos on a youtube channel. Be sure to subscribe to my channel HERE. It's free. I will likely shoot a video on this process one day.
REMOTE HEALING AND ENERGY READING SESSIONS
PRIVATE QIGONG INSTRUCTION
EMOTIONAL ENERGY SPECTRUM
Acceptance / Denial
Admiration / Pity
Anger / Tranquility
Anticipation / Surprise
Arousal / Lethargy
Awe / Shock
Compassion / Hate
Composure / Panic
Confidence / Fear
Contentment / Anxiety
Curiosity / Disinterest
Desire / Repulsion
Determination / Resignation
Ecstasy / Depression
Elation / Grief
Excitement / Dread
Fascination / Apathy
Hope / Despair
Joy / Sadness
Loyalty / Betrayal
Pleasure / Pain
Pride / Shame
Relief / Remorse
Satisfaction / Disappointment
Sympathy / Jealousy